A few weeks ago, I had a breakthrough moment that I’ve been reflecting on ever since. I was having a conversation with an influential man, seeking career advice as I navigate grad school & explore various professional paths. I enjoy having deep, meaningful discussions & this one felt particularly insightful—who knows what opportunities it might lead to? I asked thoughtful questions, expressed my bold personality & actively listened. The man seemed impressed with my knowledge & confidence, which made me feel validated & capable. However, as he grew more at ease, he shifted the focus of the conversation from my intellect to my appearance. He began commenting on my looks & other physical traits. While many might have seen these remarks as compliments, I was deeply offended by them.

Am I defined only by my appearance? Do men respect me solely for how I look? Why is it that women can’t be recognized for their intelligence instead?

Female empowerment has always been central to who I am as a person. I take pride in my confidence & boldness, whether in conversations or new experiences. However, these qualities have also led to challenging situations. As a woman, I have faced favoritism & criticism, both because of my appearance.

How can women harness their full potential? Start by recognizing that your brain is your most powerful tool – nurture it every day. Read books, attend workshops, listen to podcasts & join meetups with new people. Challenge yourself to learn from every experience. Understand that your unique life journey, with all its ups and downs, has shaped you into the resilient & capable woman you are today.

Lastly, don’t be your own biggest obstacle. In my experience, while men may sometimes put women down, it is often other women who are the ones tearing each other down. Celebrate each other’s successes & be there for one another during struggles. Women are naturally compassionate, yet sometimes we forget to extend that same compassion to each other.

Let’s change that.